{"id":5457,"date":"2025-03-18T09:00:14","date_gmt":"2025-03-18T08:00:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/teams-in-motion.com\/blog\/connecting-through-communication-keep-these-3-things-in-mind\/"},"modified":"2025-08-26T23:38:07","modified_gmt":"2025-08-26T21:38:07","slug":"connecting-through-communication-keep-these-3-things-in-mind","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/teams-in-motion.com\/en\/blog\/connecting-through-communication-keep-these-3-things-in-mind\/","title":{"rendered":"Connecting through communication: keep these 3 things in mind"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"5457\" class=\"elementor elementor-5457 elementor-105\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-93dd3b5 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"93dd3b5\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ba53aa0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ba53aa0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Communicating with each other seems simple, yet we don\u2019t always seem to understand each other. Or do we end up concluding that we are talking past each other? Why is that?  <\/p><p>We look at the world through our own personal lens. That lens is different for everyone. The insight \u201cWe don\u2019t see the world as it is. We see the world as we are.\u201d makes it clear why we sometimes look at the same thing and yet see it differently.  <br><br>Before we know it, we are trying to convince the other person of our own rightness, seeing our way of looking at the world as the only correct one. Result: we no longer truly listen to each other and talk past one another. Outcome: tension, discussion, annoyance, frustration, despair, helplessness, \u2026  <\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-98c2688 elementor-blockquote--skin-quotation elementor-widget elementor-widget-blockquote\" data-id=\"98c2688\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"blockquote.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<blockquote class=\"elementor-blockquote\">\n\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-blockquote__content\">\n\t\t\t\tWe don\u2019t see the world as it is, we see the world as we are.\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-q-footer\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<cite class=\"elementor-blockquote__author\">Stephen R. Covey<\/cite>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/blockquote>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1151640 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"1151640\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a31353c elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a31353c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">1. Everything starts with listening<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3a894e8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3a894e8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>It sounds like a clich\u00e9<\/strong>: good communication starts with listening. And yet, this is the essential beginning if you want a constructive, enriching conversation. <\/p><p><strong>Truly listening<\/strong>: just as difficult as good communication. How often do we keep typing on our computer or phone while someone is talking to us? How often are we busy thinking about the answer we want to give instead of first giving full attention to what the other person is saying?  <\/p><p>Truly listening may seem to take a lot of time, but in the end, it actually saves you time because it reduces the chance of miscommunication.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-487c7d0 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"487c7d0\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bb57e17 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"bb57e17\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d058be5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d058be5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>You can truly listen by:<\/strong><\/p><ul><li>Making time<\/li><li>Making eye contact<\/li><li>Putting away all distractions (such as phone, computer, etc.)<\/li><li>Keeping your own opinions and experiences to yourself until you are asked about them<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-74bb537 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"74bb537\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7e96e9e elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"7e96e9e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/teams-in-motion.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Alle-afleiding-zoals-gsm-computer-etc-weg-te-leggen.jpg\" title=\"\" alt=\"\" loading=\"lazy\">\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8b30a56 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"8b30a56\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">2. Summarize what you have heard<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6076e43 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6076e43\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>By repeating in your own words what you heard the other person say, you check for yourself and for the other whether you understood it correctly as the other truly meant it. <\/p><p>We sometimes assume that we have understood everything correctly, only to find out that the other person meant it differently. That communication misunderstanding can easily be avoided by simply rephrasing what you heard. It can be useful to start your sentence with: \u201cDo I hear you saying that \u2026?\u201d or \u201cI hear you saying that\u2026 Is that correct?\u201d  <\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4213491 elementor-blockquote--skin-quotation elementor-widget elementor-widget-blockquote\" data-id=\"4213491\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"blockquote.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<blockquote class=\"elementor-blockquote\">\n\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-blockquote__content\">\n\t\t\t\tBetween what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said, most love is lost.\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-q-footer\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<cite class=\"elementor-blockquote__author\">Khalil Gibran<\/cite>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/blockquote>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e98f066 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"e98f066\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-00f8f0e elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"00f8f0e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">3. Always keep your LSD at hand<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dd3121d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"dd3121d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Good communication starts with LISTENING. SUMMARIZING or rephrasing can help check if you understood the message correctly. And if it\u2019s not entirely clear, don\u2019t hesitate to DO ASK FURTHER. This brings you to LSD: listen, summarize, ask further.   <\/p><p>For various reasons, we don\u2019t ask further when the message isn\u2019t entirely clear: because we don\u2019t want to be seen as difficult, stupid, or pushy, because we don\u2019t have the time, or because we think we already know what the other means. This increases the chance that we will talk past each other. By \u201casking further\u201d you show involvement and avoid misunderstandings.  <\/p><p>Asking further means asking about expectations, asking for clarity, asking for repetition, \u2026 <em>\u201cWhat exactly do you mean when you say that? I don\u2019t fully get it.\u201d<\/em> <em>\u201cWhat do you expect from me? That\u2019s not entirely clear to me.\u201d<\/em> <em>\u201cCan you explain once more exactly how it works and what the next steps are?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9ed965f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9ed965f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Inspired by this article?<\/strong><br>Do you want to help your team communicate in a connecting way?<\/p><p>Check out our team activities <a href=\"https:\/\/teams-in-motion.com\/activiteiten\/verbindende-communicatie\/\">The basics of connecting through communication<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/teams-in-motion.com\/activiteiten\/verbindend-feedback-geven\/\">Giving connecting feedback<\/a>, and our program <a href=\"https:\/\/teams-in-motion.com\/programmas\/communicatie-team\/\">Stronger Together \u2013 Connecting thruogh communication for teams<\/a>.<\/p><p><strong>Or contact us<\/strong> to explore the possibilities for a customized session.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f374b01 elementor-align-left elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"f374b01\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-sm elementor-animation-float\" href=\"https:\/\/teams-in-motion.com\/en\/contact\/\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">Contact<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Connecting with each other through communication seems simple, yet we don\u2019t always seem to understand each other. 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